Thursday, August 1, 2013

I love you means nothing, but...

These days people say I love you just as easily as they take a deep breath, so saying I love you to someone really means nothing anymore. It's almost like walking by a stranger and saying, "Hi, how are you?" Most of you don't really care how they are, you just wanted to say more words than Hi. So people please stop using the phrase, "I love you" so nonchalantly and expecting some great feeling too overcome you just because you think you feel it for someone or thing.

Now something of worth is when someone shows that they love you through their appreciation, their consideration, their admiration, their care and concern or just any or their simple actions that are so evident of love. When someone shows up to be there for you and not just when you need them, or when someone remembers a little detail about you and shows you by doing something relatively appreciative of it, or even when someone thinks of you regularly and shows love by doing simple things like sending a text, calling, instant messaging, dropping off little note, or any form or communication, these things shows love because it says I'm thinking of you and your happiness is important to me. So receiving love is truly something because you can go days without ever saying those three words, but still do so much and show actions that truly exemplify that you love someone. The sad part of this is that it is often taken for granted and sometimes taken advantage of.

In explaining how saying I love you is nothing, and how receiving love is something, it only make sense to point out when does love become everything. When a special person comes into your life, as a friend or as a lover or as a colleague or even as newly met family member, the one thing in your life that could mean everything is having love for someone who has that mutual love for you. When two people share that mutual love, one person's happiness becomes both of their happinesses. When love, admiration, consideration are things given regularly with nothing expected in return because it's a natural behavior of your appreciation in your life, this is another example when love is everything. When that mutual love exists, there is an energy between you and this other person that feels so good that you always enjoy being around them; as if they always raise you up. Now the love for your colleague isn't the same type of love that you have for your lover, nor is the love you have for particular family members the same as you have for all your family members. Let's be realistic, we all must recognize that a true love for another individual is about mutuality. True love isn't a one way street.

For example, someone could love Justin Bieber, (or any famous person that so many others lust about also), to the moon and back, but we know it means nothing because they just think on it, they don't act on it, and there is no return from him. Or I could love my daughter so much, and show her love every single day in so many ways. However when she decides to not return any love by ignoring texts, not answering calls, or minimal replies to messages, (as much as it hurts), this still means something because she actually receives the love but chooses not to return any back. But persistence will be key for me because I believe that one day this relationship can evolve into that mutual relationship of true love that changes lives everyday.

Finding people in your life with a real understanding of what love means is truly priceless; I know that sounds cliché. However, you honestly cannot put a price on that uplifting feeling of what a heavenly emotion of mutuality feels like. It is truly divine and definitely unforgettable. Taking it for granted... never happens.

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