Wednesday, September 25, 2013

What did you do with your life?

"What did you do with your life?" That's a real question that we each should think about because in the end, (which is inevitable). That is a question that we will have to answer ourselves as we review the life we've lived.

Nobody's perfect, no matter how many scriptures you post for your status or how pure of heart people perceive you as. And, of course, no one is completely evil or have all the bad luck and negative vibes all their lives either. There's always a balance. Just like those who appear completely all good, have their flaws or skeletons they are covering up whilst those who tend to show pure evil have a side to them that anyone would love. Only you know what you've done or not fulfilled.

Instead of waiting until the end is here, and since we don't know when the end is near, we should look at each day and reflect. Fulfillment, accomplishment, realization? Did any of those happen today? And if so was it the same success as yesterday or have I moved forward in my life positively and progressively?

Basically, I'm wondering if you are a better person in any way shape or form then you were yesterday?

Just another matutinal message from M.E. have it easy folks... thanks for reading

Friday, September 6, 2013

Happy 60th

On this 6th day of September, 60 years have passed since the birth of THE MOST WONDERFUL WOMAN IN THE WORLD TO ME; my mother. And like this quote from Marion C. Garretty states mothers, (good mothers), are able to inspire normalcy to accomplish the impossible. My mom didn't take my classes to graduate from high school for me. My mom is very smart but she didn't get my Master or Bachelor for me. My mom is pretty good shape but she didn't "ball till she fall" nor "run like the wind" to earn scholarships for college for me. My mom is a very strong woman, however it wasn't her hands, elbows or tactics that got me through the toughest things in life. my mom may not have been the one to do things for me, but I know none of those things would have been accomplished without her inspiration and always believing in me. I feel like the luckiest son alive to be raised by someone who's always believed in me and helped build a confidence in myself that helps me know I can attain any and everything in life. So when y'all can't stand me or don't know where I get this or that craziness... Just know I get it from my momma.

Impossible? Nothing is impossible, especially since I'm Possible. ;-)

I LOVE YOU MA <---+----++±++--- trying to scream it loud enough for you to hear it in Vegas.

Friday, August 30, 2013

Stay above

This must have fallen to me for a reason... Just a reminder that I must always look at every situation and stay above the nonsense... I don't have time to meddle in bitch sessions and pity parties. I know that to have a better life I must do better in my life, uplifting the energies of those loved ones closest to my heart and always look to move forward instead of dwelling past situations that I can't change.

"Resolve to Evolve" is right. And I must stay strong.

Saturday, August 24, 2013

Love in your life, or hate in your heart?

"@LoveQuotes: Promote what you love instead of bashing what you hate."

So much easier to live a life of love, than enduring a life of hate.

There are so many things in this world to love and appreciate, and likewise an equal amount of things of disgust to hate. People these days are so easily depressed, so easily upset, and so easily controlled by others actions, others fortune, and simply others words. And it's getting worse because it's become so easy to be discouraged and down about life, and take a pill until it comes back again; besides misery loves company. I ask myself why have we not found a way to raise our children to think differently? How have we allowed negativity to be the norm? When does self esteem evolve into self confidence?

I was having a conversation with my mom once and I don't recall the exact topic, but I do remember her making fun of me about something. I then said to her...
"Ma, what if I took that personal and it really hurt my feelings?"
She claimed, "Boy, please, low self esteem doesn't even run in our family."
I sat back and thought, Hmmm she's right! Later in life, I realized that isn't exactly possible. I recognized that the reason I grew confidence during my childhood was because of how I was raised with encouragement and also the lessons I learned from the mistakes I made. And I made a ton growing up, and that's where most my knowledge and awareness developed from. As a teacher myself I know that you can only tell someone so much before they must experience it themselves.

Looking for the love and admiration of things in life is a process that isn't very easy to transition to, however it's a worthy process for all parties involved in so many ways. It unlocks a level of optimism that is so enjoyable that it becomes a way of life for you and it feels so good that you want to share it with those around you. It's one of those things that can multiply with time when so many people experience and express it themselves. This happiness is something you have to believe in and eventually expect it.

If you live your life a certain way with a particular expectation, then that expectation becomes a reality.

Believing in positive things and surrounding yourself with positive people will definitely give more opportunities for positive things to happen to you. I'm absolutely positive about that. HehHehHeh

In closing, I think about the statement... It takes more effort and muscles in your face to frown, than it does to smile.  Such as life... It takes more of an effort to ridicule, become angry with, get revenge on or so many other things to upset yourself or others than it takes to look past particular actions and smile thinking silently, 'They are doing the best they can with what they have and I should accept that.'

Live life without stress... It's never created a solid solution anyway.

Thanks for listening, please leave a comment if you got this far. ;-)

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Wednesday, August 21, 2013

What are YOU gonna do?

...and what you do depends on what your state of mind is. Holding hate for something or anything doesn't allow you to evolve. In other words, a positive or productive outlook are the ways to get things done and have success. Without the right mind set how can you expect anything except poor results? Stop hating people, stop hating math, stop hating races, stop hating life and start focusing on what the solution is and where it all begins... Yeah I'm talking about you, the person reading this from your phone, your tablet, or computer or any other media device. It starts with YOU.. and nothing in YOUr life changes without YOUr help, YOUr effort and YOUr correct outlook.

So fix yourself! You cannot continue to hold society back with your excuses and sob stories waiting for pity and handouts; all the while crippling our world's future progress. Can we always be all happy and joyful? No. But we can experience, endure then expect something good to come out of bad situations.

Expect great things in life, give real effort and receive excellence. Thanks for listening.

Thursday, August 1, 2013

I love you means nothing, but...

These days people say I love you just as easily as they take a deep breath, so saying I love you to someone really means nothing anymore. It's almost like walking by a stranger and saying, "Hi, how are you?" Most of you don't really care how they are, you just wanted to say more words than Hi. So people please stop using the phrase, "I love you" so nonchalantly and expecting some great feeling too overcome you just because you think you feel it for someone or thing.

Now something of worth is when someone shows that they love you through their appreciation, their consideration, their admiration, their care and concern or just any or their simple actions that are so evident of love. When someone shows up to be there for you and not just when you need them, or when someone remembers a little detail about you and shows you by doing something relatively appreciative of it, or even when someone thinks of you regularly and shows love by doing simple things like sending a text, calling, instant messaging, dropping off little note, or any form or communication, these things shows love because it says I'm thinking of you and your happiness is important to me. So receiving love is truly something because you can go days without ever saying those three words, but still do so much and show actions that truly exemplify that you love someone. The sad part of this is that it is often taken for granted and sometimes taken advantage of.

In explaining how saying I love you is nothing, and how receiving love is something, it only make sense to point out when does love become everything. When a special person comes into your life, as a friend or as a lover or as a colleague or even as newly met family member, the one thing in your life that could mean everything is having love for someone who has that mutual love for you. When two people share that mutual love, one person's happiness becomes both of their happinesses. When love, admiration, consideration are things given regularly with nothing expected in return because it's a natural behavior of your appreciation in your life, this is another example when love is everything. When that mutual love exists, there is an energy between you and this other person that feels so good that you always enjoy being around them; as if they always raise you up. Now the love for your colleague isn't the same type of love that you have for your lover, nor is the love you have for particular family members the same as you have for all your family members. Let's be realistic, we all must recognize that a true love for another individual is about mutuality. True love isn't a one way street.

For example, someone could love Justin Bieber, (or any famous person that so many others lust about also), to the moon and back, but we know it means nothing because they just think on it, they don't act on it, and there is no return from him. Or I could love my daughter so much, and show her love every single day in so many ways. However when she decides to not return any love by ignoring texts, not answering calls, or minimal replies to messages, (as much as it hurts), this still means something because she actually receives the love but chooses not to return any back. But persistence will be key for me because I believe that one day this relationship can evolve into that mutual relationship of true love that changes lives everyday.

Finding people in your life with a real understanding of what love means is truly priceless; I know that sounds cliché. However, you honestly cannot put a price on that uplifting feeling of what a heavenly emotion of mutuality feels like. It is truly divine and definitely unforgettable. Taking it for granted... never happens.

Tuesday, July 23, 2013

Helen Mirren is a beast!!!

Academy award winner Helen Mirren is a well respected actress that I've seen in movies like The Queen, Red and Red 2. This was some advice that she shared that young women should listen to...

If I’d had children and had a girl, the first words I would have taught her would have been “fuck off” because we weren’t brought up ever to say that to anyone, were we? And it’s quite valuable to have the courage and the confidence to say, “No, fuck off, leave me alone, thank you very much.” You see, I couldn’t help saying “Thank you very much,” I just couldn’t help myself.

I love this. Women, ladies and girls take so much shit for being a female and too often are expected to be courteous and keep their mouth closed. However, I believe the idea of standing up for yourself and basically being a righteous bitch is the way to go when it comes to keeping your head up and exuding confidence.

Ladies, being a bitch is not an insult. It simply means you stand up for yourself, speak up when necessary and never lie down when being put down in any way. Now this doesn't mean you should be called out your name, but just know that when man calls you a bitch you've truly agitated him and it will make him rethink his approach because he knows your are not weak like the others. Besides it's better than being called...a hoe, slut, whore, loose, cunt, trick, tramp, stupid, or dumb girl. And there are many more but the damage is down.

Always respect and appreciate the women in your life. Always remind and congratulate them on how strong and beautiful they are.

Thursday, July 11, 2013

...are you "spiritual?"

So I was talking to this lady about these books by James Redfield that I'm reading and she gone ask me this...

She: So what religion are you, or are you "spiritual?"

Me: I was worried about someone asking me this question because it could be a little difficult to explain. So listen carefully... I have my relationship with God, and I pray in gratitude everyday. But I'm not one to follow a particular religion; I'm actually not one to follow anything that most people do because I'm more curious than most. You see, I've always been interested in the how and why, so I regularly delve into things connected to my destiny and how I can control it myself. And that connection is kind of what being "spiritual" is to me. #imjustsaying

She: (no reply)

Didn't I tell y'all I'm on one...

Sunday, June 16, 2013

Happy Father's Day huh

What a day of mixed emotions... Extreme highs and lows...
I've felt full of excitement, while also feeling completely eliminated.
I've embraced the glory of being a father, while also feeling battered by the idea that someone feels I've abandoned them.
I have been told that I give too much to too many, and that I'm there for more than I should for more than I can remember.
And I still have more to give, but is it all for naught when it doesn't reach the one I really want?
I love my #kidgenius and my heart hurts for my #brilliantdaughter, but part of my heart still goes out to those who reach out... to me.
I have never tried to replace nor replicate anyone, I am more as a supplement when needed.
Any man that can give his POSITIVE attention to any child needs to be applauded today.
I would like to ask women to stop feeding NEGATIVE thoughts to these children about their father. It only contributes to the sickening cycle that's all too common today of single moms and single dads having babies and fighting over custody and money and everything else that doesn't matter to the child. And no one is gaining except the state that collects the money from one parent, takes their cut, and distributes to the other parent. The lose-lose cyclic battle has to stop.
We are all in a struggle against some system of life, so can we please remember to succeed that we need to get along and boost one another's esteem and energy. This coalescence is the best way to come out ahead.
Together we will eventually flourish, divided we will gradually perish.

Happy Father's day to all the men who have stepped up and given advice, attention or appreciation for any child. Being a father-figure has nothing to do with common blood types, but everything to do with common interest, consideration, admiration and love. And to all the mom's out there, stop trying to get recognition on our one single day. You've got your own and I don't hear anyone praising dads on your day. Stop the negativity, Suggest the positivity, people.

Tuesday, June 4, 2013

In my opinion... It's your fault...

Blacks 30 Times More Likely to Get Arrested for Pot as Whites in Some Counties: The War on Drugs Is a War on Minorities | Alternet


This is an egregious example of the U.S. justice system on the wrong track and being influenced by money, money, money. SMH

Honestly they need to legalize marijuana already. I've never condoned smoking weed but this fight is a losing battle. The benefits far outweigh the disadvantages. And I've yet to see a side by side comparison that shows how alcohol is not worse than marijuana. Alcohol contributes to more deaths than marijuana ever will. I've never heard of marijuana poisoning (vs alcohol poisoning), nor some high driver killing someone (vs drunk driving killing people daily), nor any organ damage from smoking too much weed (vs the liver damage from alcohol over use), nor any marijuana abuse causing aggression (vs alcohol abuse which is very real and the contributor to multiple abuses like spousal and child and multiple other assault and violence cases). How about this for a comparison... Medicinal marijuana vs alcoholic???? Yeah I've got nothing because there isn't any regularly prescribed use of it. Sure drinking a glass of wine a day is good for you, but is that really a comparable benefit?

And about the Black's being the most arrested or easily targeted, are you really surprised of that? Don't be because if any major crimes were looked  up today I'd bet that almost all of them would be disproportionate. That's how the U.S. always was and there's nothing to stop it now. Remember who were the slaves, the niggers and the 3/5ths of a man were back in the day. And I ask, what's really different in Black people's mentality today? The old slave mentality has simply evolved into a new slave mentality. All the rights and equality that people fought so hard for and died for in the past, so that Blacks could be out in the streets and on TV acting like they do now? And there's no accountability nor any shame in their actions and behavior, only attitude to those of us who don't cheer them on and applaud their antics. My people stop acting like someone owes you something because in actuality you are the ones who owe all those people who did so much for us to have equality today.

Parents stop having kids and young people stop having irresponsible sex until you can learn how to raise a responsible and respectable contributor to society.

Tuesday, May 14, 2013

Needing something... Right?

I need something...
Something new...
Something interesting...
Something in common...
Something understanding...
Something confident...
Something reliable...
Something real...

I'm not asking for something here nor there... but everywhere.
I'm not looking for something pleasant nor painful... but passionately unpredictable.
I'm not expecting marvels nor mediocrity... but mystical magnificence.

I'm not lost and I don't need to be found because... I see the path I need to take.
I'm not dwelling on the past and waiting for the future isn't my forte because... I respect and admire the gift of now that the present presents.
I am not disappointed with who I am, where I am or what I've become because... I truly know I am exactly where I'm supposed to be in this exact moment in time for these people in front of me and those my thoughts swirl about.

Bored... Nah, boredom is a state of mind for boring people; and I've never been one of them.
Seeking God... No way, I've always had a great relationship with him; without having your religion telling me how to do it.
Lonely... That's laughable because anyone who takes the time to understand me recognizes that I enjoy my alone time; now is one of those times for sure.
Mad... What, you are kidding me right? I'm one of those types that when I'm truly mad, all I do is sit in complete silence and over think the situation. I haven't done that in a long while; besides I know better than to let anyone control me that way.
Frustrated... Who can really say they don't get frustrated with life's trials and tribulations, however this is not something I let last because it allows some of my energy to escape and I can't have that.
Stressed... Never that, not me, I don't have time for that and I feel sorry for anyone who can't manage to keep their stress levels minimal. The energy involved in being stressed deteriorates your character immensely; I'm lucky I manage my stress way better than I manage my money.

What is this all about...
Well I'm not late, so there's no need to contemplate.
And I'm not depressed, so there's no need to speak about stress.
Obviously I'm not mad, when I can easily pick and choose things to make me glad.
Apparently I'm rambling and anyone still reading I'm appreciating because I could definitely go on and on.

I guess... I just... Need something.

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